Valentine’s Day - A Guide to Surviving it

I’m assuming all of you are being bombarded (willingly or unwillingly) with advertisements  reminding you that Valentine’s Day is not so quietly creeping up on us. Yes, it’s that time of the year again. The time of year that you’re either happily trying to predict what you’ll receive from your significant other or you’re telling yourself that it’s just another day. 

Of course, Valentine’s Day is a highly commercialized holiday not only in the US but also in other countries, including Poland, Czech Republic and Hungary. Now that I am living back in the US, as soon as I enter any store, I am greeted with Hallmark cards, heart-shaped candies, and lots and lots of bouquet of roses. 

I, for one, am not a fan of Valentine’s Day. I’ve always thought that you don’t need to express your feelings for someone on a specific day, you can certainly do it any day you’d like. So I just don’t get this holiday. However, I’ve decided to write a guide to surviving Valentine’s Day if you’re single or in a relationship. 

If You Are Single

If you’re single on this day, you certainly avoid anything related to Valentine’s Day. You avoid it so much that you get irrationally angry at love. I have been there. But don’t sweat it too much! Here’s a list of things you can do to maximize your single-styled Valentine’s Day! 

  • Say screw it and treat yourself - You know all those couples are going to get each other something nice. So why not say “screw it!’ and buy yourself something you’ve been wanting for a while or even do something you haven’t done in a while. This can be as simple as buying yourself a fancy face mask and wearing it with your amazingly comfortable fuzzy robe. If that’s not your thing, get yourself a massage and invite a friend that’s also spending this time of year alone. 
  • Drink moderately - Be spontaneous and do something out of your character - purchase on a Wednesday night a bottle of wine or whatever alcoholic beverage you enjoy. Again, invite some friends over and have a grand time chatting the night away. Don’t do this if you are going to be all alone, that’s just a bit sad! 
  • Binge watch - As soon as you get home, take a hot bath while listening to your favorite music artists or while you read your favorite or current book. And then once you’re nice and clean, just binge watch whatever TV show you’re currently watching. If you don’t have a TV series you’re obsessing over, then binge watch on your favorite rom-com (romantic comedy, aka “chick-flick”) movies.
  • Buy yourself flowers - If you’re feeling extra confident buy some flowers for yourself and deliver them to your office. Even if you are not getting flowers from a significant other, those flowers (I guarantee) will put a smile on your face. And while you’re at it, why not purchase flowers for someone you admire and love, like your Mom or best friend. 

If You Are In A Relationship

First of all, you’re probably feeling a huge sense of relief because you’re not going to be awkwardly be spending this day alone, but rather with someone who you (hopefully) love. Or perhaps you are freaking out because you still don’t have a gift for your significant other and you’re frantically searching the net for something easy yet romantic but not too cheesy and hopefully cheaper rather than expensive gift idea. Whatever your feelings are about this holiday, I believe it’s safe to say that most women do expect something from their man (Sean, if you’re reading this, I really don’t need anything!).

Anyway, here are some ideas for those that are in a relationship but haven’t bought anything from their significant other. 

  • Simple yet thoughtful- I know most of us already have everything we may need. However, try to remember the little things your significant other may have wanted a while back or may actually need. If you’re a man, you know that purchasing flowers will do. I don’t know any woman that gets upset when flowers are given to her. And women, purchase your husbands/boyfriends/whatever something they like…even if it is their favorite beer bottle or a book they’ve been wanting to read. You don’t need to spend loads of money. Just be creative and remember write a nice letter attached to the gift, it will make it even more special. 
  • Get dressed up - For sure anywhere you’ll go it will be filled with couples and you will probably not find a good restaurant by this point. So why not stay home, cook a nice dinner together and get dressed up for each other! Enjoy each other’s company and drink a glass of wine together. 
  • Do something unusual - This year Valentine’s Day is on hump day (on Wednesday) so why not try something new together and break up the week a bit? Perhaps you’ve never gone bowling with your significant other? Or you’ve both been dying to try out tennis, so why not sign up for lessons on this day and laugh at each other’s lack of ability to hit the ball? 

Whatever you’ll end up doing on Valentine’s Day, try to have fun and remember, there’s always next year!