The Pains of Moving to a New City

Today’s topic is a bit different than what we have usually been posting. This time it’s not related to English learning but rather something that every young adult experiences at some point in his/her life, moving to a new city. 

Now, I have moved to different cities a couple of times now. Although the first time, when I moved to Sopot, it was a bit different because I saw that move as a short-term move and as an adventure. Everything was easy-going, no rush, just taking in the moment(1.), savoring every step(2) I took, and trying anything new I could get my hands on(3). So as you see, very pleasant! However, this second “big” move was to Denver, Colorado.

My boyfriend, Sean and I decided to move to Denver. We rented a uHaul truck, packed all our belongings and drove to Denver from Florida. It took us a whooping(4) 30 hours for me and for Sean around 36 hours. Although the drive was exhausting, mentally and physically, it was well worth it. Even the move-in was worth-it (bums(5) included). 

Now that we are all moved in we are each experiencing some frustrations that happen to every one at some point of their big move - challenges. As an adult, you obviously have to figure these things out on your own, some will be constant others you’ll have to figure them out once and you’ll be done with them. This a list of those challenges I’m experiencing:

    • Transferring Driver’s License - I’m not sure how many of you know this but when you move from one state to the next permanently you have to transfer your driver's license, which means you have to go to this thing called DMV (Department of Motor Vehicle). Like any governmental office, it is inefficient and it has its handful of bureaucracy. The first time I went there they asked for documents that I was surprised of hearing, such as your birth certificate, passport, S.S.N (Social Security Number), and two proofs of residency. Now, I know people that have changed states and haven’t had to deal with this many documents. Usually it’s good enough to have your driver’s license and two proofs of residency. But in Colorado it’s a whole list of things, which truly is pain in the neck(6)
    • Getting to know the city - Another irritating aspect of moving to a new city is getting to know the city. For now I keep using google maps to get me everywhere. Which in and of itself(7) is a bit annoying since I’m certain people around me probably see me as the “new kid on the block(8)”. However, this is something that will change the longer I stay, so that’s comforting. Right now, even finding a gas station is a challenge! Thank goodness for Google Maps and technology itself! I must admit, something really awesome about moving to new city is trying out the new restaurants and discovering those little gems. 
    • Making friends - This is currently my biggest frustration. Making friends as an adult is really difficult! I would even go as far as saying that making friends is harder than finding a date. So as you guys know, I work from home, which means there’s no way I can meet new people. My only options in a world with no technology would be to actually go out…eeek! I’m joking, but really, it would mean I would have to go to cafes, bars or clubs in order to meet new people. And as many of you know, this is definitely not my strong suit(9). Thankfully, we have technology! Although, I must say I thought I was going to be a bit more successful with technology on my side. So this weekend was rough. Sean was working, basically all day on Sunday, which meant I didn’t have anything to do, other than run errands(10), clean, do laundry and cook. So I figured, why not try finding friends? So my hunt for friends began! I did a quick google search for best apps to find friends and I got a list of ten different apps. I read each summary and then picked by downloading them the ones I thought were the best ones. I must say, a lot of them are similar to tinder and it is definitely difficult to find a normal person. However, I did download Bumble (which is normally known as a dating apps, but apparently has the option to find, what they call it, your “BFF(11)”). As soon as I downloaded Bumble, I was pleasantly surprised with the “results”. All of them were women that seemed to be incredibly interesting! Can you imagine, I swipped right, I would say, 95% of the time. That’s how cool women are in this city. However, (not sure if it’s me) I’ve gotten three matches…which is kind of depressing! We’ll see how it goes within a few weeks. 
    • Parking - So I have lived downtown before, but I have never had a car when I have lived downtown. And so this is my first time living downtown and having a car. And it has been such a trial for me. First of all, I had to learn how to parallel park. I know, I should’ve learned this when I got my driver’s license, but in Florida, we don’t need to parallel park so it is hardly taught. Thankfully, because I have a great teacher, Sean, I was able to pick it up pretty quickly(12). Then there’s the little problem with parking…we have one street where we can park our cars for 72 hours, however, I would say 5/10 ten times I am successful at finding a parking spot. When I can’t find one, then I pay for parking which costs for 6 hours anywhere from $10 to $12 dollars, that’s what I call highway robbery(13)

All in all, it’s truly been a great experience moving to a new city with my partner. And although we have stumbled upon(14) some frustrations, it has been overall rewarding. Not only did I learn how to parallel park, but we also get to go to the mountains every weekend. 

 

1.  To take in the moment - it means something like “slow down and smell the roses”. Enjoy the present.
2.  To savor something - to enjoy something as much as you can.
3.  To get my hans on - when you want something very badly and want to get involved in it or to obtain something you wish to have.
4.  Whooping - can mean two different things, depending on context. 1) to give a cry of excitement. 2) used as an adjective and used when something is unreal or great.
5. Bums - another term for homeless people (informal).
6.  A pain in the neck - when something is annoying you.
7.  In and of itself- an expression used when we are trying to relay something alone. 
8.  New kid on the block - an expression used when you are new at something or somewhere.
9.  Not my strong(est) suit - an expression used when you’re trying to explain that something is not your greatest talent or skill.
10.  To run errands - and expression. When we “run errands” it means you have to take care of a “to-do” list but outside of your home, this can be as silly as going grocery shopping to more serious matters, such as interviewing different lawyers.
11.  BFF - an acronym for “best friends forever”
12.  To pick up something quickly - we use this when we are trying to relay that you want to learn/understand something in a quick manner.
13.  Highway robbery - an expression which is used when something is very expensive when it shouldn’t be.
14.  Stumbled upon - we use it when you find/meet something/someone by chance/coincidence.